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Are You Asking for What you Really Want?

Pick up any book on personal growth, self improvement or successful thinking and you will find one of the first concepts is usually to ask clearly for what you want. That is assuming you know what you want in the first place!

Five Top Tips for Instant Motivation

Sometimes it can be hard to maintain your enthusiasm and keep your eye on the goal, here are some great tips to give you instant motivation so you will be highly energised and more focused on your way to achieving your goal.

Live your Values Define your life

Living your life around your highest values can allow you to be fulfilled and focused, giving you the tools to choose easily what is important to you, based on those guiding values.

Joining the dots not the butts to the bigger picture

Waiting for the train I notice two still-smoking cigarette butts on the grass bank, the previous mid-fourties owners nearby chatting away. I found myself with an internal disconnect - how hard is it to join the dots between personal actions and the bigger picture.

Meditation is for Monks?

Dr. Joseph Mercola's in The London Times March 14, 2008 comments: “Before you brush off meditation as something only for Buddhist monks or hippies, it would serve you well to find out what you may be missing. Meditation is the equivalent of giving your mind an escape valve to blow off steam”.

NLP for the Broken Hearted

A separation is always painful for all involved. How can you get over someone and get on with life? Peter gives a few tips.

Positive Thinking or Fatalism: Is There Another Choice?

It seems like every day there are more articles and books being written about positive thinking. Some support the benefits of positive thinking and others warn against its pitfalls. I wonder, is either approach right, or is there another way that will support us in leading a happy and fulfilled life?

Creating a Miracle Mindset

So what is the miracle mindset all about anyway?

Goal Setting for Success

If you don't know what you're aiming for, you're sure as heck not going to hit it!

Action Planning

Once you've set your goals, it's really important to break them down into a manageable action plan to avoid procrastination or overwhelm.

Kicking Mental Clutter to Touch!

In this article, we turn our focus to the subject of de-energisers, which represent a great opportunity to free yourself of mental clutter and improve your energy and motivation levels.

Understanding your Values

By understanding our values, we can experience greater levels of satisfaction and also simplify our decision making.

Getting off the Busy Treadmill

This article is about the quest for slow. It’s borne out of my own desire to stop, slow down a bit, and get off the treadmill of being continually busy. I hope that my discoveries also benefit you, and together we can learn to give up the habit of being constantly busy, slow down a little, and smell the roses.

Create a Balance between Kick-Butt Action & Guilt-Free Relaxation!

If you'd like some proven techniques for increasing your personal effectiveness, read on...

10 Tips for Lifting Your Day

These 10 simple tips will help you to feel more energised, happy and productive as you flow through your day.

10 Tips for Lifting Your Day

These 10 simple tips will help you to feel more energised, happy and productive as you flow through your day.

10 Tips for Lifting Your Day

These 10 simple tips will help you to feel more energised, happy and productive as you flow through your day.

Waking Up is an Inside Job

In my previous article I described the challenge that faced me during my coaching training with Debbie Ford once I came to the realisation that no one was coming to my rescue and that if I wanted to live the life of my dreams, I must take full responsibility for all aspects of my life and for making that dream become a reality.

Waking Up Is Hard To Do

The emotional waking up process for me was very slow, hindered by the fact that I believed that I was already awake. I could see that others had a way to go, but me? No way! I was one of the lucky people who just managed to have it all together; but I was very excited about the idea of working, in some capacity, with those who didn't, to try and bring them to my advanced state! Oh, how the arrogant fall and oh, how very hard.

When to Say 'Yes' to Couple's Coaching

It is a common mistake among couples that they only go to a relationship coach or counselor when things get bad. This is like suggesting that the All Blacks shouldn’t have a coach unless they start losing games. The time when you should ask for advice about your relationship is before you have started it.

An Ericksonian Approach to Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

What can you do when a debilitating sickness is holding you back from what you want in life? Peter Campbell relates one approach he used on a client whose potential was being limited.

How to Build Resilience

While we don’t always have control over the circumstances of our lives, we do have control over how we react to them. Our beliefs shape our thoughts and our thoughts motivate our actions. Building a robust belief in ourselves, in our strengths, and in our ability to take appropriate and effective action will help us weather the storms of life, recover from adversity, and strengthen our ability adapt to change

Small Steps Bring About Big Changes

Our desire for change can start as a nagging feeling that life could be better than it is, or it could stem from a deep dissatisfaction with some particular aspect of our day-by-day existence. As well as opening up possibilities for personal growth and positive transformation, change can bring up all sorts of fears and conflicting feelings. Your approach to change will determine the outcome.

Do You Make Time For Your Career?

Increasingly I find that people I work with are extremely capable, work hard, deliver results, however they put their work demands ahead of their own (including career planning). Does this sounds like you?

Are you a story teller?

We all tell ourselves stories to keep ourselves 'safe, often however, the stories keep us in the same place, when we could be moving ahead.

How to stop smoking with NLP

Thought of stopping smoking? Thinking you can do it and have not come around to doing it? Have you maybe tried and then started again? Well, you are not the only one...

Use Your Thoughts to Support Success

Is fear sapping your energy and holding you back from achieving all you want to in life? A simple change in focus can help to free you from debilitating fear and propel you into enhanced self-belief and bring about successful results in your life. Learn how to use the power of your mind to unlock the motivation and determination required to bring about your success. Put your renewed energy into taking positive action that will help you achieve your dreams.

Removing Trauma - A Personal Experience

Doing is believing when it comes to recovering from traumatic experiences.

Overcome Depression

How can clinical problems such as depression be overcome without resorting to drugs. Peter explores the problem from an NLP perspective.

Finding True Love

This is about my journey of preparation on my way to meeting my husband.

Happiness

Change your thoughts, change your life.

Hiring a Professional Coach

There are many great coaches for you to choose from, and they're featured in this amazing website so that you can find out more about their work, and what they have achieved. To help you decide who is the right person to work with you, try checking out our tips for idendifying a coach to help you be even more amazing.

Tips For Surviving Redundancy

We're passionate about supporting you to Stay Amazing through the loss of a job. We've not only been there ourselves, but we've helped hundreds of people like you to survive, and in 2009 we published a book about how we, and others around the world have survived. Here are our top 10 Tips;

Letting go – starts now!

Ever felt that something that you’ve experienced or that was done to you is holding you back? Forgiveness is giving up a grievance, which you are entitled to. It doesn’t mean forgetting or reconciliation; it doesn’t mean condoning, it’s not about justice and doesn’t make what happened ok.

No relationship is flawless or hopeless!

A relationship is something to take care with, protect and nurture. Whether you have been together 5 months or 50 years care should still be taken. Indeed, the longer one has been in the relationship the more complacent one might become and hence nearly imperceptibly drift apart.

Strategies to Warm up to Winter

I have two key strategies for this.

The meaning of situations reframed...

What a week it has been in the history of aviation! A volcano erupting in Iceland has caused so much disruption leaving people stuck in different countries all over the world. I was in the Philippines at the time, and was not much disturbed by it coming back to New Zealand, but relatives and many others did find themselves stranded for days. While some people were happy about a few more days aboard, covered by insurance, others wanted to be home and wished they had not gone away.

How to Know if All that Stuff is Really Clutter

How can you tell if clutter has become a problem? Use this checklist to help you evaluate your own clutter situation. If you answer yes to any of these questions it may be time to stop and take stock of your surroundings and make a plan to clear the decks so you can enjoy what you own rather than feeling owned by your belongings. Be kind to yourself while doing this - most of us could benefit from making a bit more space in our lives.

Learn to Love Yourself

Are happy being who you are? Or instead, are you trying to be the person you think others want you to be? Are you constantly holding back, afraid that other people won’t like or accept you if they get to know you and find out what you are ‘really’ like? Well the news is all good. You were put on this earth to be the person you truly are. You CAN learn to accept and love yourself just as you are. Follow the seven tips below and learn to love yourself.

The Feeling of Loss in the Workplace

Redundancy and the impact it has. Have you been hit by the big R? Have you, or someone you know, been made redundant due to the 'current economic climate'. You may have arrived at work one day to discover that you no longer have a place of work to go to.

Goals - and that sinking feeling

Setting and getting goals is exciting, inspiring and challenging - well at least I hope they are for you. And the 'journey to the goals' so often is such a rich experience on it's own. That is great - but what about when you finally achieve that big big goal? You're on a real high, buzzing for maybe a few days, maybe weeks.....and then, you get that sinking feeling, that little voice in your head ( or is it your heart?) says 'So what!?"

No one is coming!

In my work as a coach, often with leaders in corporations or private companies, I see in my clients eyes a look of panic - of being trapped - of waiting for the rescue vehicle to arrive and 'fix' their lives.....to get them out of their extremley busy, and highly successful lives and career. Why is this?

Begin With the End in Mind!

There is a reason why we are here living in the world and it’s our responsibility that we tap into our inner core and be all that we are made to be. I remember striving hard in my career for financial gain to build that wonderful future I had been told about but it left my soul void of life, leaving me to ask questions like ‘What am I here for?’ and ‘What’s my purpose?’.

Stuck in a rut at work?

Want to know how you can maximise every opportunity in your current role and get yourself out of a rut? To follow are 3 tips to help you feel energised and actually want to go to work in the morning.

How to work with a recruitment consultancy

Looking for work can be a difficult experience and sometimes recruitment consultancy staff are not as helpful as you might have expected. Something to keep in mind is that you are using their service for free. They are paid by the employer and will put more effort into communicating with them than you. However, all is not lost. You can find a new job with the help of a recruitment consultant.

Five Tips for Creating a Great CV

Even when you are not job seeking it is important to have an up-to-date CV that accurately reflects your skills and experience. Your CV should always be at the ready. You never know when an opportunity may present itself to you. So how do you create a great CV?

How to choose the RIGHT Coach for you

There are now many coaches out there to choose from, some specialising and some offering a range of services, but even though coaching has earnt it's place as an effective way for people to improve themselves and their world, the skills of a coach, plus experience and competence can vary. Use this guide to help you choose the right coach for you!

Be your own Cheerleader.

What does success mean to you? Is it being the best at what you do in your career, in your life? Maybe it is having a fabulous house or that amazing car? Being wealthy or maybe being happy?

Gratitude,Your secret ingredient.

What's so good about developing an attitude of gratitude? Check out the bottom of this article for the answer.....

How to get ahead in the confidence stakes!

Imagine how your life would change if you were self assured, confident and at ease in all situations, however challenging! Being confident and outgoing is a skill you can learn, and there is no better time than now to get started!

How to keep your head under pressure

Some people have a great ability to keep the head under pressure in front of others. They steer their focus away from a feeling of risk and doom, to one of being in the moment - performing in the same way as they had mentally rehearsed their performance. And of course, with more experience, the easier it is to (in the words of Adam Ant) stand and deliver!

Limiting Beliefs-Do you Have Any?

What is a limiting belief? How have your limiting beliefs hindered or helped you? Heres an example: you have had your heart broken by another. From that you may have decided that you cannot have successful relationships? Could this be you?

Overcoming Phobias with NLP

When my friend Sara came back from living in Australia for a year, she was over the moon with the great times she had accumulated there. She had done so many new things and many great friends travelling around. But there was one thing which she wished she could feel differently about: her crippling fear of spiders which she had for quite some years and which was disabilitating.

Don't waste your dollars!

http://weddingwhisperer.wordpress.com Trying to save money while planning your wedding is a bit like walking a tightrope – you don’t want to waste money, but you do want to create an unforgettably beautiful event. So, one great way to save money is to avoid the things that aren’t worth buying at any price. For every wedding, the priorities are different, of course, but here is my personal top 5 of possible expenses that should make you put your credit card back into your wallet:

10 Important Wedding planning Questions

Take your time over answering these questions, and make sure you listen to your fiance as well as making your own feelings clear. All the little compromises you'll need to make along the way [and there will be many of them!] will be so much harder if you feel that you're not getting the wedding you really want in the first place.

Interview Tip of the Week...

Have you recently attended an interview for a role you really wanted and come away thinking - "that went reasonably well". Then receive in your inbox the next day a "dear john" email.

A Tribute to Greer: Core Values And A Final Farewell Message

This is tribute to the strength and courage of our friend Greer who passed away on the 7th of February 2010 from Cancer.

Recipe for a Positive Change

When we find things in our lives that we are not satisfied with, we often dwell on them, talk about them and generally try to figure out 'why me?".

Top Tips to Slay Energy Drainers

The first step to getting what you want out of your life is to create the space for it! Here are a few tips to help you do just that by slaying the energy drainers in your life once and for all!

Are your beliefs holding you back?

By examining your beliefs about certain aspects of your life you can expose ones which hold you back and stop you from pushing yourself ahead and reaching your goals and aspirations.

Customer Services and Singing Angels

When you think of getting through to Customer Services, what comes to mind, a 'brick wall'? Yeah, I had those conversations too, but hey, I've have the other kind also - the ones where the right voice on the other end of the line transmits the right piece of knowledge and a solution then falls into the place; the world becomes a vastly better place, sun breaks through storm clouds and angels sing so on and so forth etc. etc.

Juggling to Find Balance

The holiday period for most of us is a time of relaxation and an opportunity for finding another perspective on what balance means. This perspective often causes people to question why they do the work they do and often creates some dread about going back to work.

Acknowledge and Appreciate You

Do you know how many times you or your family have had successes over 2009? Have you been involved as a parent, class trips, sports, conversation time? have you been interactive with your partner? Outings, time,gifts or acts of love. did you win a competition? did you get a new career? or do well in the one you have? did you qualify in something? have you been what you consider to be a good person, and citizen?

2010: Making Your Goals Happen!

Why some goals never become reality and how to make sure they do! We use goals as a way stating our intention for the future and (by achieving them) shaping it. BUT goals gather dust too and many go no further than being just a good idea

CELEBRATE YOUR LIFE-lyf4u

what do you do to celebrate the great events or achievements that come into you life?  

Successuful Teens

The program has been running with great results now. much to the relief of students and parents. STUDENT COMMENT: i gained so much more interest in succeeding well in my goals, learning about my abilities and career choices and knowing how to love myself which gives me a lot of confidence for my future. i also learnt how to control anxiety in stressful times like my exam times. Katie.

How to create an Authentic Vision for your life in 7 easy steps

Sometimes as adults we tend to stop asking ourselves what we want to be and we create our life's on auto pilot. Many of us become disassociated from that creative "I can do anything" spirit within us.  So here is a fun and easy 7 step exercise to assist in accessing your "creative spirit" and creating an Authentic Vision for your life. 

How To Ask For Help

 Asking for help is not an act of dependence; it's the key to independence. If I hadn't asked for help in using the telephone when I went blind, I wouldn't have been able to make thousands of phone calls independently. If I hadn't asked for help in using a white cane I would have missed out on many independent trips to town.  Here are eight actions to complete which will help create this new habit so you can achieve even more!

How To Turn A Negative Into A Positive

The good news is that turning a negative into a positive is all within your power - it begins and ends with the way you see things. You are the mastermind of your own positivity so think positive, act positive and you will produce positive results! Following are 7 tips on how to achieve positive results from your negative change.

Shhhhh! Something is listening to your every thought

What a lemon has to say about what’s listening to the thoughts in your head, why it matters and how you can best make use of them.

How to create a TRIGGER!

What is a TRIGGER? A TRIGGER is some kind of cue that ‘TRIGGERS’ a certain thought – it’s essentially building an association between an object and a specific thought or feeling – In setting up a TRIGGER, YOU CHOOSE the thought or feeling to be associated with it.

Beat the Winter Blues

When the weather is cold and wet, and you leave for work in the dark and return home in the dark, winter can seem like a drag. Worse still, we can sink into a dark place within ourselves and feel down and grumpy. But it doesn’t need to be this way, so lets look at ways to stay upbeat through the winter months.

How to come out stronger at the other end

Unless you can predict the future, a skill I personally haven’t mastered yet but maybe you have, we don’t know what life will throw at us. Whether good or bad, challenging or easy, horrible or beautiful, we are all going to face situations hard to deal with at some point. When this happens, we have two options.

How to Live Passionately

Living passionately is about having a swing in your step, feeling great with high levels of energy, motivation and inspiration.

All About Attitude

Our actions are based on our words; our words are based on our thoughts; and our thoughts are based on our beliefs – beliefs about the world and our place in it. Words are powerful – they can build us up or tear us down; they can inspire us or make us so afraid of failing that we fail to act at all.

EARLY WARNING SIGNS OF BURN OUT – PROLONGED STRESS

Stress features in the lives of most people – in paid employment, self employment and those who run households. It can be as deadly as a cancer or as subtle as a mosquito bite!

In the spotlight? Be cool under pressure!

One of three major presures on a human being - along side ambiguity and over-busyness - is being-seen; those times when everyone is focused on you and assessing every word you say and move you make.

Become a Professional Coach

Have you ever thought about becoming a professional Coach? Do you like to support people through challenge and to achieve goals? Do you get a buzz from knowing you've been there for someone? Is it important for you to know that you're adding your value to the world? If so, coaching could be for you!

How To Be a Sane Parent!

Parenting could be the most important job title you will ever have and the appraisal method is the most illuminating! What do you want to remember about how you ‘parented.’ Will your memories of parenting your children be overwhelmingly positive? What kind of people do you want your children to become? This article is a beginners guide to identifying and prioritising the key areas of your life, and adding focus and a spark to each. The results could begin a life-changing path!

How to get started in business

There are impressive figures that clearly show New Zealand is a nation of successful entrepreneurs. In the same token, some businesses don’t make it through the first year. I assume that you DON’T want to be one of the later. With a sound foundation, a great support network and the right attitude, you too can be successful. Don’t be fooled, it is hard work, but the rewards are worth it as long as you are passionate for what you do. So let’s get into it!